why don’t you like me?

My top hit post from search engines is the one I wrote several years ago spotlighting a young artist called “Mika.” He’s all kinds of awesome. I still love the tune, the video and the artist.

Today, because I’m Mrs Metaphor I want to tell you why this song hits me, seriously. Of course, yes, it’s catchy…and fun. The lyrics are such a mirror for me.

The whole idea of changing so that someone will like me is deep. I want to be liked. Sure, most of us want to be liked. It’s our shared Willy Lohman complex, it might be in our DNA. I know it’s in mine.

In my case what I fear the most is being misunderstood. I strive to be a good communicator. I want to be direct. I want to be authentic. I want to be embraced. I suppose that’s the key thing. It’s not enough for me to not piss someone off on a regular basis. I want embrace. I want to be welcomed.

I can’t control anyone’s reaction to me. I can’t change the essential parts of me in order to be liked better. That’s not really the answer, is it?

I will continue to work toward being the best version of my self. That’s my work. I will attempt to be loving and kind, to listen more than I speak, to have arms open, ready to hold. That’s my calling.

I can only do what is within my power and from there I really do need to let it go. If someone dislikes me, turns away, I can only ask to be engaged on it. From there, it’s not mine.

It’s becomes mine only when I am engaged DIRECTLY by that person, given the opportunity to be loving and kind, to listen more than I speak, to have arms open, ready to hold. That’s my calling. That’s my commitment.

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