I have to have a list. If I don’t write it down I won’t remember it. It used to be that I’d remember important things just in the nick of time but these days are so packed out that I’m often overwhelmed. And so I remember to buy milk but I forget I promised to Henry that we’d have some time together. They don’t forget promises I make, thankfully they forgive promises I break. They are the sole of grace, my children.
I’m thankful for that and yet I know that this time is slippery. It’s moving fast. It’s a stream with a strong current and rocky rapids now and again. So I made a list, well the start of a list I should say. I figured I make a list for the groceries and for the bills…why not a list for my daily parenting?
I may need to have this tattooed on my forearms so that I’m not likely to leave the list in the pocket of my jeans or the bottom of my purse. I hope I won’t forget or at least I hope I remember in good time…
Parenting things I want to remember:
-time is currency, noble currency. I can find it in the cushions of the couch when I sit down long enough to hold someone
-though the dishes are piled up on the counters and the laundry seems to breed when I’m not looking there is always time for one more story
-no matter how I rebuke the adage “you’ll miss these days when they’re older” I know that it is true
-never say “no” or “not right now” to a hug offered
-what I’m doing RIGHT NOW is foundational in guiding who my children WILL BECOME
-children have long memories, short attention spans and always live in the present moment
-I can never say “I love you” too often
-that whole “do as I say, not as I do” thing is complete bullshit. I model behavior for my kids every single moment
-everyone wants to be heard
-just because I don’t understand it, that doesn’t make it wrong
It’s an incomplete list, certainly. I’ve only been doing this parenting thing for 14 blurry eyed years so far…what would you add to the list?